The secret of marriage.

Marriage is a choice, and some people are willing to come together and start a family because of love at first sight, supporting each other through the long years; Some people have been waiting, believing that there is a destined person in the vast sea of people, to join hands for a lifetime; Some people felt tired during their emotional journey and got off the car early. No matter what kind of emotional experience it is, it is an exploration of emotions and an experience that cannot be repeated in life. Therefore, we actually have reason to believe that those who have the courage to enter into marriage will definitely be able to shoulder responsibilities in marriage.

What is the true responsibility in marriage? What preparations should be made for two people to come together, the true experiences of those who have come before, and these four truths are things that people who decide to enter into marriage need to carefully consider. Understanding them early is the key to happiness.
01 Knowing how to end romance, reality begins
There is a post on a certain forum where a man has compiled a complete set of ways to coax his girlfriend. 10 documents with millions of views. The content mostly consists of "10 Little Stories to Make Your Girlfriend Happy", "15 Little Stories to Make Your Girlfriend Sleep", "10 Romantic Stories to Make Your Girlfriend Happy", and so on, covering various comfort stories for girlfriends. Netizens were deeply moved by this and expressed their desire to save it. It's so practical. But the reality is that the romance before marriage is so vivid, and the impact of reality is also so vivid.
Because those who enter into marriage will eventually understand that romance cannot be eaten as a meal.
What are the problems after entering into marriage? In simpler terms, who will wake up early and make breakfast? Who washed the bowl? Who picked up the express delivery from Cainiao Station? Speaking of the bigger picture, who will manage the money at home? Who will support the family? Whoever can solve these questions is the true romantic king. Those little stories about coaxing people will eventually become little tricks for coaxing children.
Of course, it's not that romance cannot exist in marriage, but rather that romance in love can undergo some adjustments in order due to income, family relationships, and social relationships. Men may give up evening dates for a single business, while women may choose a bucket of instant noodles to send their children to piano class. Only a marital relationship that is truly immersed in daily necessities can truly understand the hardships of making way for reality.
02 Turning one person's problem into two people's problem
Love can really break through everything. At the scene of the gold medal mediation, there was a woman with a magical emotional experience. She went fishing with her friends and met the owner of the fish pond, a young, divorced father with a one-and-a-half-year-old son. The whole family was in chaos. According to the lady, her husband's one-and-a-half-year-old son is wearing diapers because he hasn't changed the floor mop for a long time. Because the child smiled at her, she had a thought in her heart, wanting to save this poor father and son. This kind lady gave up her job in the city and came to a mountain nest to be with this man.
It is said that women are more likely to lose their rationality emotionally because they believe that kindness can change everything. That's why some women have husbands who engage in gambling, domestic violence, and some bad habits. Because they firmly believe that love can overcome everything. But the reality is that as soon as you enter into marriage, you have millions of foreign debts to repay in the blink of an eye; He swore not to use drugs again, and shortly after marriage, he became a drug addict again. Those nerves numbed by love will make you mentally collapse after marriage. So, your problem, his problem, will eventually become a common problem for both of you. The real test of your emotions comes when you slowly start paying off the million dollar debt.
Returning to the lady who married the fish pond owner just now, she only discovered after marriage that her husband was gambling, drinking excessively, and hitting children. And he put his fist on her head, and all the beauty before marriage disappeared completely. At this point, it's a myth that love can conquer everything.
Differences and warmth often exist in 03
Passing by the street garden, a mother was training her daughter. You shouldn't agree. You're talking so much now, and I didn't think highly of this kid before. "The mother was eager to love her daughter and expressed her dissatisfaction with her son-in-law. After marriage, many things are not just the responsibility of the young couple, and it is difficult for both families not to be involved. Here is a reminder for young people that it is best to handle matters between spouses behind closed doors and avoid involving parents as much as possible, because having one more opinion will not accelerate the resolution of the problem, only having one more solution can calm the conflict.
Disagreements after marriage are really commonplace. There are two factors that influence our decisions, one is intimate relationships and the other is emotions. Stable intimate relationships make some immature people more stubborn, and they will choose to be self-centered, constantly consuming others in stable relationships. The mentality of men is that they are already married, so if there is anything else to fuss about, just listen to me. If you don't want to listen to me, I will try my best to make you listen to me, or I will do it behind your back. That's why men are born to conquer. The biggest consumable of women is emotions, because in their hearts, men's attitudes hide love. Only when men are super patient and tolerant enough, can they constantly tolerate women they like. Women only want one answer, do you still love me or not?
The consumption in marriage is very frequent, and we must understand this principle. Therefore, when facing differences, we must understand the "three sentence" law. Just argue for a maximum of three sentences, and then stop after three sentences, because after three sentences are emotions, emotions are followed by impulses, and behind impulses is the devil.
04 Support each other in hardship and illness
The emotions of husband and wife are cultivated in difficult times. Adversity knows people, mud knows horses. In early 2002, a large fire suddenly engulfed a family in Nanjing. The injured couple were both trapped on the balcony. The husband, in order to protect his wife, placed her outside the balcony and held her hand tightly to prevent her from falling, while he endured thick smoke and scorching heat inside the house. When the firefighters arrived, the man persisted and pulled his wife onto the balcony with them. When my wife was rescued from the fire, she shouted 'Save my husband first'. In the face of real choices, the subconscious choices in marriage are heart wrenching. And life sets numerous test questions for every family and couple, the more difficult it is, the more it tests the bond between husband and wife. So, when a family is facing difficult times, the couple should be united and support each other. Only with this belief can one enter into marriage.
There is a young man named Peng Yalou who suffered severe head injury and loss of consciousness due to gas poisoning at home, resulting in complete paralysis. Her girlfriend Liu Ning not only did not abandon him, but also took on the responsibility of taking care of him, as she has for years. This kind girl is just a girlfriend, yet she remains steadfast in the face of illness. We often say that being together in a person's marriage life, illness is also the most challenging emotional experience. Although being together cannot cure the body, it is the warmth that never disappears on winter nights, slowly building the walls of marriage. The key to all of this lies in people. Among the many tests of marriage, illness is the most fundamental and direct test. A glass of water for a cold, a glass of medicine for stomach pain, and staying outside the operating room for serious illness. Being together is also the secret to a long-lasting marriage.
By understanding these four truths, we can step into marriage with great strides, but happiness still needs to be fought for by ourselves. We need to give ourselves confidence in order to touch the secret of a happy marriage.