People with high emotional intelligence keep quiet about these three privacy issues,

I once heard a saying:
Intelligence is only intelligence, only when combined with sufficiently high emotional intelligence can it be wisdom
When young, many people disdain the ways of the world;

In middle age, after the passage of time and the beating of society, most people will realize that the key to how far a person can go lies in their emotional intelligence.
The cultivation of emotional intelligence is the process of a person moving from immaturity to maturity, and it is also a lifelong lesson to be learned.
Not only does the workplace require emotional intelligence to protect the body, but daily life also requires emotional intelligence support.
The following are three personal secrets that high emotional intelligence people keep silent about, while low emotional intelligence people talk about when they meet people.
There is a saying in the Analects of Confucius: "Do not speak with words without words, for you will make a mistake
It means telling outsiders what shouldn't have been said, which is an inappropriate behavior.
In life, not everything is suitable to say to others, and not everyone is trustworthy.
Even if you have a good relationship with your colleagues, it is not appropriate to overexpose your personal affairs.
Everyone is here to work and earn money, not to listen to others confide. No one is interested in your family affairs, and no one truly empathizes with your experiences.
There used to be a former colleague whom we all called Sister Wang.
Wang Jie's business ability is average, but she likes to chat with colleagues about her family affairs, especially when conflicts arise with her family. Every time she complains to her colleagues like Sister Xianglin.
Once, she had another argument with her mother-in-law. My mother-in-law said she spends her money recklessly online all day long and doesn't know how to live a good life.
Wang Jie felt wronged in her heart. Although she was carefully purchasing daily necessities, her mother-in-law didn't discriminate and started shouting loudly when she saw a few more packages at the door.
She told her mother-in-law's story to her colleagues, who were all unmarried girls. How could she know how to get along with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? She fought against injustice for her, and roast that her mother-in-law cheated too much.
But the Wang sister became more and more arrogant as she spoke, feeling that her mother-in-law was too much, even spending five or ten yuan on land being taken care of by someone.
When I got home, I had a heated argument with my husband. He thought she was unreasonable and would get angry at small things.
She felt that her husband was biased towards her mother-in-law and did not consider her position at all.
The two of them argued every day until their relationship was over and they ended up with a divorce letter.
This is not over yet. As soon as Wang Jie got divorced, she was laid off by the company. Due to her lack of research in business, she was included in the first batch of layoffs.
As a result, they lost their marriage and became unemployed.
After Sister Wang left, a colleague said a sharp sentence:
Miss Wang's biggest problem is talking about family matters at work. Originally, it was a small matter that could be easily resolved by mutual concessions, but with the instigation of others, the problem escalated and there was no room for change in the end
Don't casually share your family affairs with others.
If you show your wound in front of others, they are likely to be watching the clown.
Even if you speak in pain, others cannot empathize.
Do not casually comment on others' family affairs. Without understanding their true situation, you cannot provide reasonable advice;
Maintaining familiarity with colleagues in official matters and keeping a distance in personal matters is the most comfortable way to get along.
In the social life of Chinese people, there is a problem that people can't avoid, that is, they like to inquire about other people's income.
Talking about salary income among relatives and friends is a sensitive and private matter.
In this world, apart from your parents and family, no one really wants you to live better than them.
Everyone has a sense of comparison. If you hear that you have a higher income than others, it will not only cause unnecessary jealousy, but also make it difficult for others to borrow money from you, whether or not.
I have heard a saying that exposes human nature:
When I see him honored, may he be exiled; when I see him wealthy, may he be scattered
If you hear that your income is lower than others, although others may not look down on you, you will also feel that you are doing too poorly.
Don't think you haven't encountered it, in fact, it's everywhere.
Netizen @ Xiaxia told her own story.
A while ago, a college classmate whom she hadn't been in touch with for a long time suddenly called her.
She felt very strange and remained extremely vigilant.
In the end, this classmate did not get married and did not invite her to dinner. As soon as she let go of her guard, the classmate began to inquire about her salary and benefits indirectly.
It's almost the end of the year. Other units have already issued year-end bonuses, so have you
Xia Xia spoke faster than her brain and said:
Wow, our year-end bonus is two months' salary
A classmate took advantage of the situation and asked, "How many year-end bonuses do you have here
Xia Xia wanted to be humble and said, "Not much, only 20000 yuan
The highlight has arrived, and the classmate immediately answered:
We don't have the same treatment as you. Recently, I haven't been thinking about changing to a school district house. I'm a bit nervous, so I'm wondering if I can turn over 50000 yuan from you
Xia Xia regretted it in her heart at that time, and she quickly spoke out. It was not appropriate to borrow it at this time, and it was not appropriate not to borrow it.
The classmate continued to complain, but Xia Xia wouldn't refuse. In the end, she could only say, "I can't borrow 50000, I can only borrow 20000
The final result was that the classmate tearfully borrowed 30000 yuan.
Upon learning of this, Xia Xia's friends first scolded their classmates and then argued with Xia Xia.
Although Xia Xia regrets it, she can only expect her classmates to repay the money on time.
In the adult world, be wary of all sudden greetings and prolonged heat.
This situation is either borrowing money from you or notifying you of the marriage.
And those who try their best to inquire about your situation and income are likely to have ulterior motives.
Not wanting to be caught in a dilemma, it's best not to disclose your financial situation to anyone. This is not only a form of self-protection, but also a basic social norm.
The first survival principle in the workplace is not to speak ill of others behind their backs.
There is no wall in this world that doesn't leak air, and the bad things you say will eventually be brought back to that person's ears in an even uglier form.
Even if not, people will still distance themselves from you. In their eyes, you are the one who will gossip behind your back.
You can talk behind his back today, and tomorrow you will also talk behind others. They don't want to become the object of your discussion one day.
I once heard a story from the investment circle.
An investor originally planned to invest 10 million yuan in a newly established company.
When both parties agreed to negotiate, the executive of the company unintentionally changed his mind.
The executive accidentally roast about a partner: "The business ability of the other company is too poor, but our company is more professional in cooperation. “
Originally, he wanted to elevate the other party in this way, but what the executive didn't know was that the company he roast was actually the old owner of investors.
This company once again showed him kindness, so the investors immediately turned pale and felt that the executives of this company were narrow-minded and lacked tolerance.
The decision to immediately withdraw the investment was replied to him as follows:
I think the risk of investing in your company exceeds expectations. It's better to wait for the right time before we cooperate
The executives didn't understand in the end which link went wrong.
As the saying goes, "Gold is not pure, and no one is perfect
There is no perfect person in the world, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. When interacting with others, always remember to look at their strengths and tolerate their weaknesses.
Not commenting on others or saying right or wrong about anything is not only a cultivation of dealing with people, but also a kind acceptance of others.
Anthony Robbins once said:
Protecting your privacy is as important as protecting your body
Private and family matters should be resolved privately, and it is important not to confide in others. This not only fails to solve the problem, but can also escalate the situation;
Salary income is a private matter, and no matter who it is, it is best not to disclose it, as it will cause no harm or benefit;
If you can speak well of someone behind their back, don't speak ill of them. If you tell the secret to Feng, don't blame him for telling the whole forest.
A truly intelligent person says what they should say and does what they should do.
Understanding boundaries, knowing how to advance and retreat, not revealing all of one's privacy, and not speaking without any room for maneuver are essential skills in the process of interacting with others.
Click on 'Watching', may you be able to speak, speak well, understand the ways of the world externally, and be considerate of yourself internally.
Have you ever found a moment of high emotional intelligence in others in your life that makes you amazed? You can share it in the comments section and learn together.