Women over the age of fifty cannot escape the following reasons

Recently, the drama 'Proud Sun Accompanies Me' has gone viral on social media.
In the drama, the scene of Luo Meijuan and Sheng Xiangqian arguing over a dress deeply empathized with countless people.

Luo Meijuan, who is going to attend a class reunion, doesn't even have a decent dress.
So he gritted his teeth and bought a new dress for 3000 yuan, ready to return it after wearing it.
But when she dressed beautifully for the father and son to see.
One of them said she was silly, and the other said it was not appropriate for her to dress like this when cooking.
Angry, Luo Meijuan abandoned her household chores and went straight back to her room.
Seeing his mother angry, the son suggested buying a beautiful dress to make her happy and even gave 1200 yuan.
Sheng Xiangqian took a dress that his neighbor didn't want, lied and said it was bought, and gave it to Luo Meijuan.
Unbeknownst to her, Luo Meijuan happily wore her clothes to work.
In the afternoon, he was mocked by neighbors who came knocking on his door.
Only then did Luo Meijuan realize that the "gift" she was wearing was an old piece of clothing that someone else didn't want, and that "other person" was still the female neighbor who had a holiday.
That night, Luo Meijuan had a big argument with Sheng Xiangqian.
During the argument, Sheng Xiangqian discovered the new dress that Luo Meijuan had hidden in the cabinet and asked in surprise:
Are you crazy for spending 3000 yuan on this dress? You, Luo Meijuan, were not such a materialistic person before. How did you change
Luo Meijuan, who was already uncomfortable in her heart, immediately turned all her grievances into anger upon hearing such questioning:
What's wrong with 3000 yuan? I don't deserve to wear such clothes
Have I had a good day? Discounted food and second-hand houses, I've endured them all. I have to hide and tuck in new clothes with my own money. Shouldn't you reflect on yourself
I feel really helpless after watching it.
I have earned money for my entire life and have been diligent and frugal in managing the household for decades.
Just because I bought a beautiful dress and wanted to have a precious beauty, I was criticized by my husband for materialism.
Luo Meijuan used her own personal experience to tell us three heart wrenching truths and also to remind all women.
Many people's first reaction after watching the drama is that poor and humble couples are always sad.
really
Sheng Xiangqian, an ordinary sanitation worker, is the lowest level worker in society.
I've been used to frugality and stinginess all my life.
For him, he couldn't figure out why a piece of fabric that wasn't even half the size of a bedsheet would cost three thousand yuan.
And what about Luo Meijuan?
Ordinary supermarket salespersons, discounted food, second-hand houses, and clothes in wardrobes that have been worn for decades.
They are not at odds with each other in terms of values, nor are they seeking trouble for nothing.
At the end of the day, it's still because of 'poverty'.
Living together as a couple requires money for necessities such as daily necessities, taking care of children, elderly people falling ill, and interpersonal relationships.
If there is not enough material foundation, big and small things will have to be debated endlessly over 'spending money again'.
I remember watching a video before.
A wife was furious when she discovered her husband secretly buying thousands of yuan worth of New Year's goods for her parents online.
It's several thousand yuan, why didn't you ask me in advance
The husband kept explaining, but the woman remained angry and even took the orange from her husband's hand and threw it on the ground:
The oranges you bought at the supermarket were all discounted, and you spent thousands of dollars buying New Year's goods for your parents! You must return them to me today, otherwise you won't be able to go home
Finally, leaving her husband to silently wipe away tears.
If we only look at the above conversation, many people think that their wives are domineering, selfish, and unreasonable.
But to be honest, I quite sympathize with her.
She and her husband are both migrant workers in Beijing with low incomes.
Three months ago, her husband lost his job and the financial pressure on the family suddenly increased. She spent several thousand yuan all at once, which really made her unable to bear it.
It's right to bring some New Year's goods back to my hometown. I'm not unreasonable, but you have to discuss with me
I think besides showing filial piety to the elderly, another reason for him is that he cannot let go of his pride. He wants his family to think that he is living a prosperous life in Beijing and not lacking in money. Isn't this just about sacrificing face and suffering?
Yeah, who doesn't want to go home in the wind and glory, who doesn't want to buy New Year's goods for their parents openly, and who doesn't want to eat expensive fruits in the supermarket.
But reality is there.
If it weren't for the lack of money, would the wife need to be hysterical? Will she still hurt others or herself over something worth thousands of yuan?
Ultimately, poverty is the most terrifying enemy of marriage.
Marriage lacks more than just money.
Moreover, due to the bitterness brought by lack of money, the relationship between husband and wife is constantly torn apart unconsciously. In the end, even the slightest trivial matter can become the trigger for an argument.
No matter how good a relationship is, it must be shattered in the face of reality.
So, women, if they have to choose between two, they would rather lack love than lack money.
Only when there is no lack of money can two people most likely sit down calmly and talk about their relationship.
If you don't have money, even sitting down is difficult, and you will only exhaust yourself on trivial matters.
There is another detail in the drama that touches countless people.
During the argument between Sheng Xiangqian and Luo Meijuan, she defined herself as a good man.
I'll give you my salary card. I don't smoke, drink, or wander around outside. I'll come back to accompany you as soon as I finish work. What else do you want
Yeah, compared to those scumbags who cheat and commit domestic violence, he can even be considered a good man.
But it's just such a good man who comes home every day like an "old man", euphemistically saying "I'm tired from work".
On the other hand, Luo Meijuan had to do household chores even when she was in class. Because she was angry and didn't wash the dishes or prepare fruits for her, she was asked if she was having a bad breath.
No wonder she angrily scolded her. Her husband only treated her as a nanny and didn't need to pay her a salary.
Have you ever accompanied me on a household chore
But those who hold this idea are not just thriving forward?
In life, many husbands not only fail to appreciate their wives' labor and efforts, but also take everything for granted.
A reader shares their own similar experience.
After giving birth, she had to resign and return to her family because she couldn't find a suitable aunt.
Once, she complained to her husband that her wrist was sore from doing housework every day.
I didn't expect my husband to look puzzled:
The rice is cooked in an electric rice cooker, the clothes are washed in a washing machine, and the child has parents to help take care of them during the day. Why does the wrist still hurt
She was stunned at the moment, and a huge sense of grievance and pain rushed into her mind.
Not because doing housework is tiring.
What disappointed her even more than exhaustion was that her efforts and sacrifices had never been seen.
Fortunately, she did not force herself to swallow these grievances.
But to express one's hardships confidently.
The husband praised the good selection of the toilet in the house, it doesn't need to be flushed, and the water will be clean as soon as it's flushed.
She retorted, "Please, that's because I carefully consider when choosing a toilet brush and cleaner
Then, intentionally or unintentionally, one may become lazy and use their own methods to punish them.
Whenever her husband is free, he takes care of the child alone, and she takes the opportunity to go out and have a meal with her best friend to relax.
If there is a need, they will directly say, "Is it okay to replace the roll paper after use? Every time you throw away the garbage, I have to put a garbage bag on the back for you
Gradually, her inner grievances decreased a lot, and her sense of happiness actually increased.
Ten o'clock Jun quite appreciates her approach.
Household chores are actually small things as big as sesame seeds.
But for those who pick sesame seeds all over the ground, it is a kind of breakdown.
So as a woman, everyone has to learn a subject called:
Learn to be a hands off shopkeeper appropriately.
Don't worry too much, let go more, demand or even use "coercion" to make the husband also take responsibility, which is not impossible.
Anyway, no matter how big the problem is, it's not as important as having a stable and healthy mindset.
Taking a step back, even if there are some problems, so what.
Heaven, it cannot collapse.
A netizen said:
The predicament of the Lao Sheng family is also the predicament of millions of ordinary working-class families.
The conflict between material satisfaction and spiritual value pursuit is faced by every ordinary person who has exhausted all their efforts for life
Why did Luo Meijuan suddenly want a beautiful dress after decades of diligent and frugal household management.
Ultimately, she just wanted someone to say to her:
You wear new clothes, you wear good things, you don't have to constantly look at discounted items and feel wronged.
I just love beauty, I love dresses, and I love dressing myself up. These are all made for myself, not for you men. Is this principle difficult to understand
These three thousand yuan are her breath, a gap in life, and also her sense of worth.
But Luo Meijuan is not just Luo Meijuan.
She is also a microcosm of millions of wives and mothers in China.
She is a great woman who works tirelessly for her family and children throughout her life, constantly compressing and sacrificing herself.
There is a question online:
What does marriage and childbirth bring to women
Netizen @ Weiwei posted a photo.
That was her 37th birthday, and she bought herself a gift.
Since having a family, there have been voices from all directions saying to her:
With a family, why do you dress up so nicely? You should save some money. In the future, there will be more places to spend money
Although her salary is not low and her income is stable, she always dares to go to discounted stores when buying clothes.
Except for Mother's Day, everyone feels like she doesn't need to celebrate it.
Even on birthdays, people would say, 'How old are you? Is it worth being happy to be one year older? What's there to celebrate?'.
But it's okay, just wish yourself a happy birthday this time
Another netizen self described.
She has a great child and loves him very much.
She never regrets having children, but regrets becoming a mother.
As a mother, it is assumed that she should give up her personal needs and career, and strive to achieve different and higher standards.
If the child is well taken care of, it is the credit of the whole family. If the child is not well taken care of or taught, it is her responsibility.
Even she must be the mother who sacrifices herself the most in order to be competent.
As women, it seems that there are always people telling us that you should be a virtuous wife, a qualified mother, take care of the family, and selflessly dedicate yourself.
But it seems that everyone has forgotten:
They are not only mothers, but also wives, and she is still her.
They have worked hard for their families for most of their lives.
They can endure hardship, but that doesn't mean they are only worthy of hardship.
So, Ten O'Clock also wants to say to all women:
You deserve to take care of yourself at any age, buy beautiful clothes, skincare products, eat delicious food, and do everything that can provide emotional value to yourself.
You deserve all the beauty, don't forget to love yourself while loving others
Any woman at any age can still have her own life and pursuits.
Every woman who puts everything into her family deserves a good life and deserves recognition and praise from her husband and children.
In fact, the argument between Luo Meijuan and Sheng Xiangqian is experienced by every ordinary family in real life.
Sheng Xiangqian is like a typical traditional Chinese man, honest and hardworking, but also has many traditional concepts and flaws.
But in his heart, he actually knew that because he didn't have much big business, letting his son and wife follow him and suffer injustice.
So the only thing he can do is to always accompany Luo Meijuan and never abandon her.
Also, Luo Meijuan, if she were really materialistic, she wouldn't have married Sheng Xiangqian in the first place and washed her hands to make soup for him.
Even a dilapidated house that has been lived in for decades will be tidied up to be warm and comfortable.
Our marriages also have countless conflicts of varying sizes.
The spark that triggers an argument may be a dress, or it could be the adjustment of lifestyle habits over and over again.
These contradictions and conflicts, although not to the point where divorce is necessary, gradually erode the initial passion and patience over time.
But what Ten Points wants to say is:
No marriage in this world can be perfect, but that doesn't mean it can't be happy.
The key still lies in how to maintain and manage, how to accept and discover the true self in intimacy.
I also hope that all women can have a discerning eye.
Since trivial matters in love are inevitable, it is important to recognize the truth early so that we can avoid many detours in our later life.
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