Girls who didn't want to get married ended up marrying love
1、 Should I marry into love? Still marrying reality
A close friend once asked me, "Darling, should a girl marry love or reality? Marrying reality is nothing more than fighting for a few years and then regretting it for more than 10 years. However, this is far fetched. There are many friends around me who have married reality, and they have gradually become accustomed to each other's presence in their daily lives. That habit has a hint of dependence, and in the long-term dependence, they have developed a disease called laziness cancer, which is incurable
She said she recently met a boy who has a car, a house, and savings, but she never looked at him in the eye.
I said:; Since you don't like him, why bother? Have you ever thought that your partner is someone who will accompany you throughout your life? If you don't like him, it's better to reject him directly, without delay, and look for him separately. And you have the ability to make money, always saying that relying on others is better than relying on yourself. Since you don't rely on the other party's financial support, the result is naturally clear. Later, I heard that the reason why she was distressed was entirely due to her mother's words.
Nothing can compare to having one's own home, can it? Emotions can be slowly cultivated. In our time, it was basically introduced by family and friends, and we would naturally get together after seeing each other. There are not so many affectations, which are not surprising. Even my ancestors were ordered by their parents. Is love useful? Poor couples are always sad. Even if your love is strong enough to be steadfast, it will eventually be defeated by reality, and a clever woman cannot cook without rice. Don't you feel envious when you see your cousin traveling with your other half all over the world? "As parents, most people like to educate their children in this way. Parents are not personal witnesses of your emotional experiences, so sometimes their opinions are intuitive, rational, but also arbitrary and one-sided. Not listening to the old man's words, suffering losses in front of me. However, when it comes to love, I always borrow from what I think is right, and I don't fully absorb it.
What if you have a house? A house cannot give people like me a sense of security. In the real world, I am very rational and I know exactly what I want. However, when I meet someone I like, I am very emotional. I find marriage without love as a spiritual bond dull. A person only lives for over 30000 days, and life is short without regret.
If you are a 'holy warrior', perhaps even if your family knows that your heart does not belong to him, they will still force a match because this partner looks good to them and they are afraid that you will miss him. 'What if you can't find him?'. But I want to advise my uncles and aunts, "As the saying goes, a melon that is forced to twist is not sweet." I want to say to those girls who are mixed in like best friends and constantly distressed, "You have the right to pursue happiness, and the choice is only in your own hands. Others' words can only be a reference. If you don't think that's right, let them pass by like smoke. If others are not you, you won't empathize with them. The words of people outside the parties involved may have some one-sided meanings
Speaking of which, my friend and I reached a tacit agreement on our viewpoints. A good relationship, you are mine, and I am yours. And we all belong to ourselves. Emotions lie in communication, and the primary prerequisite for communication is to have a conversation. You may have different hobbies, but respect and acceptance are enough. Can your communication progress from shallow to deep, and is it nutritious. And achieving unity to some extent is the key. People with different values are under the same roof, and their perspectives on their surroundings are different. No matter how good the emotional foundation is, it will be in vain. Moreover, you do not share any common emotional experiences. A good relationship is about mutual trust and the determination to progress and overcome difficulties together, rather than just having a shelter from the rain and no communication between hearts. Even if you ultimately succumb to reality, imagine the awkwardness of facing someone you have nothing to talk to every day, which is called helplessness.
A home is a place with temperature, a place without temperature is a dwelling. To put it bluntly, after you left, you couldn't even take away a single brick or tile from this residence, and you talked to me about what you once owned.
Are you married to love or to a temporary residence? For those who love each other, marriage is a sacred temple, while for those who do not love, it is called a tomb.
2、 I love you, and I love the way I look when I'm with you even more
I once saw such a case online, and after reading it, I was deeply impressed by the love between the male and female protagonists. This is a couple who got married without a car or a house, and they were so stingy that they didn't even have any ceremony or blessings from relatives and friends. However, the girl did not regret it. She said, "When I was young, I didn't understand love and just wanted to find someone who was good to me. He was good to me, so I married.
During the time when they first fell in love, they lived in cheap rental housing, squeezed into small bathrooms, earned meager wages, and lived a life of poverty. She said, "We all spent the toughest days together. After ten years of marriage, her career has been stable, and her husband's career is also thriving. Not only did they buy a house in the city, but the man gained recognition from the woman's family. In fact, happiness never comes easily. After being together for more than ten years, they have already lived their lives as one person.
The woman said, 'Do it yourself and have plenty of food and clothing.' The man said, 'It doesn't matter how hard or tired you are for your beloved. Every day, I drag my tired body and watch her stand in the kitchen wearing an apron and smiling while cooking dinner. At that moment, I felt like the happiest person in the world.' The man often felt that he owed his wife a ceremony, so he secretly arranged a belated proposal ceremony on the tenth anniversary.
She had never expected this surprise to be so sudden. Although the day was within her expectations, she was still deeply moved. The good thing just happened. Bad things came one after another. Shortly after marriage, she experienced a serious car accident, which caused her episodic amnesia that was permanent. Including her parents, friends, these familiar faces were completely removed from her world. As soon as she woke up those days, she kept seeking help from those around her. The instinctive emotional dependence of "I want to find my husband" is actually a deep love.
This deep love makes me forget the world, but I can't forget you. Even if I forget something about us, I still trust you absolutely. He said, 'As long as she wakes up, forget it. No matter what she becomes, I still love her. It's a big deal, let's start over from what my name is.'.
As long as she is alive, we still have plenty of time to love her well again. Afterwards, he stayed in the hospital day and night to accompany her. During this period, his friends had advised him to look again, and he fiercely said, 'If you say such things again, we will break up.'. There are countless good girls in the world, but this is the only one I love. “
Good love is mostly like this, no matter what you become, I gladly accept it and still love you. Husband and wife are birds of the same forest, flying separately in the face of adversity. This theorem is not applicable in the face of good love.
3、 Ajiao getting married: Thank you for showing up. I thought I wouldn't meet you again
Good love may be late, but it is never absent. In front of people who don't love you, I learned about the hardships of life and how to run against the wind and rain. In front of the person who loves you, you understand the true meaning of love. Perhaps love is when someone has deeply hurt you and even laughed it off. So, you are disappointed, you feel like the entire family has abandoned you, you feel like your existence itself is a huge joke. However, it wasn't until the appearance of another person that he showed you through his actions that he loved you and didn't care about your past. Even if you were terrible, what he loved happened to be the worst girl standing in front of him at this moment. You don't have to be very good, as long as I love you.
If life has brought you all kinds of debts, then please believe that there will always be someone who will make up for all the debts life has brought you.
Even if the world is desolate, believe that there will always be someone who will be your believer. Whether you are good or bad, and whoever you are, you are my faith.
Ajiao got married, wearing a strapless wedding dress, shining brightly. That day, she was the most beautiful woman in the world. She finally confirmed the sentence in her song: 'To become a queen or a bride in the end, both are ideals.'.
Remembering the song "Next Stop, Tianhou" that Ajiao once sang, there is a line in it that fits her love philosophy very well: "Actually, the biggest ideal in my heart is to come home with him and sing for him“
Ajiao once said that she wanted to marry a very handsome man, but after the scandal of the Yanzhao scandal, she began to ignore her appearance. Ajiao once burst into tears and said, 'No one will marry me again.'. During that time, there were still people who liked her and slowly fell in love with her. However, no one has ever thought of giving a future to that seemingly strong girl who is always sensitive and hurt deep inside.
For a girl who believes in love: I can accept your imperfections, I can accept giving you half of my only bread. But what I fear the most is no matter how much I give, no matter how much I give. I can't even move you. The future you depicted is very beautiful, just an extra me.
As time goes by, from 27 to 37, a woman's best golden age has already passed. If it were a girl with weak willpower, she might not have waited long, but this person is none other than Ajiao. I once watched an interview with Ajiao, and when she talked about that despised love in her 30s, her eyes still turned red. Perhaps the meaning of tears is more about not letting go.
I gave you a heart, a pure and sincere love for you, but when you left, I found my heart empty. It seems like something is missing.
In May of this year, the news of Ajiao's marriage briefly went on the hot search. Ajiao found a very handsome man who has no complicated love history and doesn't care about her past. I just want to spend my whole life with her. He gave her a romantic wedding, allowing her to become the most beautiful bride as she wished. At the wedding, when she said in her speech, "It's been a long time since we arrived today...", Ajiao cried very hard, but it wasn't Ajiao who cried first, but the man who loved her very much.
He smiled and told her, it's great to marry you. Finally waiting for you, luckily I didn't give up.
What is love? Love is meeting the right person at the right time, and the person you love at the wrong time will eventually pass by like a floating cloud. Fortunately, even though you are covered in bruises, you are still willing to believe in love.
4、 A good love is when you can be yourself, simple yet beautiful
I think the quality of a relationship can be reflected in girls. If a girl is confident, humorous, and graceful in her behavior, there must be someone behind her who is willing to spoil and love her. This person uses their actions to protect her fragile self-esteem. So when she speaks and does things, she won't be afraid of her hands and feet, hesitant, and won't worry about things like a lunatic.
In fact, good love in the world is like this, right or wrong is not important, as long as there is love, there will be favoritism to spoil. Love gives you a fulcrum to face this imperfect world with tolerance and gentleness.
As Zhang Xiaoxian said, when you have to wait for the right person, you may not know what the right person is. Only when that person appears, you will know that he should be the right person. He appears in your life to satisfy you and to help you improve yourself.
Girls who marry into love often learn to dedicate their love while accepting it. They know how to give and tolerate, and put themselves in their partner's shoes to prepare for the future. They often give up their inherent temper and become gentle, composed, and approachable. If you find a woman cursing like a shrew, even if it's a trivial matter, she will be meticulous and meticulous. I think maybe she's not doing well enough.
Perhaps I will meet you later, whether you are twenty or thirty years old, but I still firmly believe that the person who loves, understands, and cherishes me will cross the sea of people, just to give me a harbor of love. Before that, all you need to do is treat yourself well, try to be independent and have an independent personality that doesn't rely on others. Promise me, okay?
Heart like Rain Xi: Do you still believe in love? However, I still believe and wait as always.