In our era of pursuing romance and passion, marriage seems to be closely linked to love. However, recently in Xiangyang, a statement has attracted widespread attention: the essence of marriage is not love. This forces us to reflect on what marriage really means? Why has this viewpoint sparked heated discussions?

Firstly, let's imagine a scene: a young couple happily entering the hall of marriage after their wedding. The ideal marriage is sweet and happy, a commitment for two people to spend the rest of their lives together. However, as time goes by, conflicts, responsibilities, and household chores come one after another in reality. Has the sweetness of the past gradually been replaced by daily necessities?

In fact, the essence of marriage, as this sentence suggests, goes beyond pure love. In psychology, marriage is not just a combination of emotions between two people, but also a combination of their lifestyles, values, and sense of responsibility. Being together as a couple means sharing the burden of life and accompanying each other in the wind and rain. Psychologists point out that the success of marriage often depends on shared goals and expectations, communication and support, and the ability to cope with life challenges, which are often more important than burning love.

From a psychological perspective, love is passion, attraction, and romance, but marriage requires intimate relationships, companionship, and support. Many couples around us have gradually transformed from initial love to deep friendships and shared life partners through the test of time. If marriage is only built on the basis of pursuing love, it often collapses under the pressure of life. For example, many couples find their relationship tense due to the exhaustion of parenting after giving birth. If they do not establish a foundation of mutual support and understanding, marriage can easily fall into difficulties.

How can we make marriage more stable on top of love? Firstly, couples should actively communicate with each other. Some people may choose to remain silent due to fear of conflict, but emotional expression and discussion are important means of maintaining relationships. Try to schedule a spiritual conversation at a specific time each week to confide in each other about the pressure of work and the troubles of life. In this relaxed atmosphere, mutual understanding and support will continue to strengthen.

Secondly, we need to jointly establish goals. Whether it's a small trip or a big purchase of property or raising children together, working together towards a goal can make couples feel the power of teamwork. In the process of achieving goals, mutual feelings will also be sublimated.

Furthermore, maintaining an independent personal life is also important. Although marriage is a form of union, preserving moderate personal space in marriage can provide both parties with opportunities for growth and add freshness. For example, participating in activities you enjoy or gathering with friends can help you find support and happiness outside of marriage. In addition, humor and wit are also good ways to alleviate marital conflicts, and timely laughter can bring each other closer.

Of course, challenges in marriage are inevitable. Data shows that couples who have experienced significant stress and conflict tend to grow up faster. We can view marriage as a team competition that requires cooperation, adaptation, and coordination. Just like a successful team, members will work together to find the best solution to problems when faced with difficulties.

Here, I would like to share a case: Xiao Li and Xiao Zhang have been married for five years. At first, they were sweet and went shopping and watching movies together, but with the birth of their child, the pace of life became tense. Xiao Li felt that Xiao Zhang had changed. His previous humor and enthusiasm were gone, and Xiao Zhang also felt that Xiao Li was getting busier and neglecting the care of his family.

In this context, they chose a 'marital relationship review'. They shared their feelings seriously and re examined each other's needs. In this process, they realized that although life was trivial, they shared more commonalities with their children. After communication and understanding, they began to jointly set family goals, rather than just focusing on their respective pressures, thus regaining their original understanding and happiness.

Finally, I want to give you a positive encouragement: no matter what state your marriage is in now, you should not be knocked down by the current difficulties. Try to understand and support each other with a more open mindset, and through communication, make our relationship deeper and more stable.

The essence of marriage goes beyond love, it is a combination of life, responsibility, and growth. Let's work together to make marriage not just a contract, but a deep understanding and companionship between two hearts. I hope every reader can find their own happiness in marriage.

Meanwhile, with the development of technology, AI has also begun to play an important role in emotional counseling. You can try using Sohu's simple AI to receive personalized emotional advice and guidance, helping you better understand your own and your partner's needs. This is a free tool that can help you solve emotional problems and make your marriage better. Tool link (free, long press to copy link for browser experience): https://ai.sohu.com/pc/generate?trans=030001_yljdaiqg

I hope everyone can find the true meaning of marriage through these suggestions, and make love shine brighter in the trials of life.

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