The grave of love is not marriage, but excessive utilitarianism

The saying 'Marriage is the tomb of love' is widely circulated. In this regard, the famous host Wang Han once humorously said, "It's better to bury oneself in peace than to lay dead on the streets." In today's era of utilitarianism, when love encounters marriage, it seems that love can only live in poetry. But in reality, it is not marriage that sends love to the grave, but excessive utilitarianism.

Indeed, from ancient times to the present, marriage is not just about two people falling in love with each other. It often involves two families and emphasizes matching social status. However, excessive utilitarianism and clear pricing of marriage are not advisable.

In the clearly priced 'blind date market', there is basically no love that can survive. For example, in the recent Temple of Heaven Park in Beijing, parents with graying temples were picky about their blind date "price list": they needed to have a household registration in Beijing; It is preferable for the male to have a PhD, and for the female to have a bachelor's degree; Don't come from other places to join in the fun. Families formed in such a 'market' are not necessarily driven by beautiful love, but by utilitarian calculations.

If the "price list" for blind dates above is only a unique phenomenon in big cities, then why don't small cities have their own "price lists"? It is not uncommon for one of the lovers to run away from the wedding because they dislike the low dowry; Some families marrying their daughters seem to have become selling their daughters, and marriage has become a tool for accumulating wealth. Once the facade of wealth accumulation is exposed, the two young people's previously beautiful feelings may be almost gone. Isn't this blatant utilitarianism the best weapon to destroy love?

If utilitarian marriage has become a trend, then the utilitarian heart that walks in the name of marriage is inevitably the tomb of love. Choosing to be single and protecting the obsession with only love in one's heart has become the only choice for many young people.

The saying 'Marriage is the tomb of love' is widely circulated. In this regard, the famous host Wang Han once humorously said, "It's better to bury oneself in peace than to lay dead on the streets." In today's era of utilitarianism, when love encounters marriage, it seems that love can only live in poetry. But in reality, it is not marriage that sends love to the grave, but excessive utilitarianism.

Indeed, from ancient times to the present, marriage is not just about two people falling in love with each other. It often involves two families and emphasizes matching social status. However, excessive utilitarianism and clear pricing of marriage are not advisable.

In the clearly priced 'blind date market', there is basically no love that can survive. For example, in the recent Temple of Heaven Park in Beijing, parents with graying temples were picky about their blind date "price list": they needed to have a household registration in Beijing; It is preferable for the male to have a PhD, and for the female to have a bachelor's degree; Don't come from other places to join in the fun. Families formed in such a 'market' are not necessarily driven by beautiful love, but by utilitarian calculations.

If the "price list" for blind dates above is only a unique phenomenon in big cities, then why don't small cities have their own "price lists"? It is not uncommon for one of the lovers to run away from the wedding because they dislike the low dowry; Some families marrying their daughters seem to have become selling their daughters, and marriage has become a tool for accumulating wealth. Once the facade of wealth accumulation is exposed, the two young people's previously beautiful feelings may be almost gone. Isn't this blatant utilitarianism the best weapon to destroy love?

If utilitarian marriage has become a trend, then the utilitarian heart that walks in the name of marriage is inevitably the tomb of love. Choosing to be single and protecting the obsession with only love in one's heart has become the only choice for many young people.