Several education experts have called on parents not to "lose themselves" and trigger multiple anxieties as there are more channels to understand information in the information age. Chen Xiaowen, director of the Jing'an District Family Education Guidance Center, said, "Actually, every child's family background is different, so education cannot be replicated. Instead of following the online parenting 'lecture book', it is better to look back at the child more and teach according to their family situation

Information overload breeds multiple anxieties

Social development and educational competition are intensifying parents' concerns about their children's future. Recently, a primary school conducted a survey on parental anxiety, and only 20% of parents stated that they "have no anxiety". In today's fiercely competitive society, parents hope their children can establish themselves in the future, so they attach great importance to their children's education and face great pressure. "A moral education teacher who has been teaching for many years admitted that compared to more than a decade ago, the information explosion has become the root of anxiety, and parents' worries are becoming more diverse. Compared to before, parents do have more 'parenting knowledge' and have learned skills and methods. When it comes to emotional problems, ADHD, and focus, they speak confidently. However, many parents do not know where the 'parenting balance' lies, and excessive attention is also a form of anxiety

Sometimes I don't know where to find suitable parenting knowledge, so I have to search randomly based on keywords. The result of searching for a needle in a haystack is that there is too much and too messy information, and I don't know how to filter it, "said Hu, a parent of a fifth grade student in Hongkou District, feeling embarrassed. His son has entered the early stages of puberty, and parents often don't know how to" cope ".

"Good activities and good courses are always popular. The problem is that in the Internet age, information is complex and asymmetric, and families who really need and are interested may not be able to match the activities they need. The high-quality curriculum resources shared by various departments are classified on the digital platform. After cross sectoral collaboration and digital sharing, more high-quality activities and learning resources can 'accurately match' families." Last year, the Family Education Research and Guidance Center of Hongkou District set up a "digital platform for family community collaborative education" through the happiness circle of "school family community cooperation" and the happiness circle of "family school co education". Now, more than 20000 parents have registered. Shi Yunyan, Deputy Director of the School Family Education Research and Guidance Center in Hongkou District, said.

Over the past year, Mr. Hu's anxiety has decreased significantly, and live classes on the platform every Wednesday have become a regular part of his daily schedule. Don't worry about where to learn parenting anymore. The targeted courses found on the platform not only helped me understand the psychological development characteristics of adolescent children, but also helped me communicate well with them

Do not label children casually

Recently, Jing'an Family Education Guidance Center has also upgraded its family education services. The parent MOOC platform has been upgraded to "Shanghai Jing'an Digital Home School", bringing together various content such as general courses, special courses, and expert lectures. Parents can also submit consultation questions in the background to obtain expert assistance. In the background, I often see parents asking whether their children have ADHD, reading disorders, or attention deficit. Chen Xiaowen said that parents should not label their children arbitrarily, as it not only increases anxiety but also hinders their growth.

Information overload requires parents to choose authoritative channels for obtaining information, such as professional books, formal lectures, etc. At the same time, they should combine the knowledge they have learned with their children's actual situation and not blindly apply it. Chen Xiaowen said, "Many times, parents' anxiety stems from their own 'wild thoughts', thinking that their children have' attention deficit disorder ',' hyperactivity disorder ',' learning disorder ', and behind these' wild thoughts' are also the push force of adults having high expectations for their children

Shi Yunyan also reminds parents to adjust their mentality and accept their children's imperfections. Every child is unique and has their own growth trajectory. Parents cannot measure them by a single standard. Excessive pursuit of perfection will only increase anxiety. We should focus on the child's progress and efforts, view their growth from a developmental perspective, and give them enough room for growth

Image caption: Interviewees for Parent Child Activities in Hongkou District

Give children a certain amount of 'blank space'

Information overload has increased parents' focus and put more pressure on their children. At home, it is necessary to give children a certain amount of space. In fact, everyone needs a certain amount of space and cannot be too bored with being together. If parents continue to chatter about who is better than you, who has passed the piano exam, and only by studying well can you find a good job, setting a grand blueprint like this will definitely cause anxiety problems for children

To alleviate anxiety, parent-child companionship is crucial. Parents should increase the time spent with their children, improve the quality of companionship, and engage in activities such as handicrafts, outdoor sports, and visiting museums together. Enhancing parent-child relationships through interaction, understanding children's inner thoughts, and allowing them to feel the love and support of their parents, thus establishing a good parent-child relationship and providing strong guarantees for their growth. However, Chen Xiaowen pointed out that in parent-child companionship, it is also important to pay attention to leaving space for oneself and children, and not to do every small thing with a purpose in mind. Some parents think that visiting museums is about acquiring knowledge, while others believe that outdoor activities are about improving physical performance. These utilitarian parent-child companionship can erode children's interests and make oneself more anxious

At the same time, education experts also believe that parents should learn self-regulation and use techniques such as deep breathing and meditation to calm their emotions in a timely manner when they feel anxious, setting an example for their children's emotional management. Family members should support and understand each other, work together to create a harmonious family atmosphere, and avoid transmitting negative emotions to children Parents must output positive emotions, otherwise, family conflicts and conflicts in parenting concepts will make children think 'without me, there would be no such conflict'. When parents discuss differences, they should avoid their children and try to reach a consensus as much as possible, seeking common ground while reserving differences

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