Is it okay not to get married? This is the best answer
I remember many years ago, I met a girl at an event.
We talked during the activity break. She is a few years older than me and also ugly, but after spending half a day with her, I can clearly feel that she is a simple and friendly person.
She said her current salary level is not high, but she lives a nine to five life with a regular schedule and is satisfied with the current situation.
Then we talked about emotional issues, because at that time I was still single and so was she.
She told me that marriage is not necessary for her, and she is ready to live a single life for the rest of her life.
In fact, I have found that in this era, there are many people who choose not to get married, and I don't think there is anything wrong with it. So I agreed, saying, "Whether or not to get married is secondary. What's important is to save more money for yourself so that you can enjoy the life you want
Her voice had always been soft, but then she suddenly became firm and looked at me, saying:
Actually, whether it's more money or less, it's the same for me. I don't earn much now, so I still enjoy the life of being single
I looked at her for a long time and found that she is not very good at makeup. Her whole face has nothing to do with "delicacy", and her clothes are the simplest and most minimalist style. As she said, her salary is about 7000 yuan per month.
Perhaps because I was relatively young at the time, my first reaction to her idea of "enjoying being single" was, is what she said true?
After all, my ideal situation is to be able to enrich myself even without a partner. I must live a more luxurious life, but I also don't want to live too tightly and feel wronged.
At that time, I hoped to be independent, strong, exquisite, and dazzling, so that no one would think that I was outdated. Just like the dazzling and youthful female celebrities we see online, if they don't get married, it will only make people feel that no one deserves her.
In fact, this idea is deeply rooted in the hearts of ordinary people:
If you are not beautiful enough, if you are not wealthy enough, then you are not worthy of being single.
If you claim to enjoy a single life, it will only make others think you are trying to be brave.
In fact, this sentence can be put more bluntly and hurtfully, which is:
You said you don't want to get married, the real reason is that no one wants you.
What is the difference between 'not getting married' and 'nobody wants it'?
In fact, to be honest, this is a different mindset.
As long as you can be independent, optimistic, and live a fulfilling life every day, how much money you earn, whether you have high looks, and whether you can make others envy you, your life is not that important.
After all, everyone's life has its pros and cons, and you can never convince everyone.
As long as you can recognize yourself, it really doesn't matter whether you get married or not.