How to create a warm and harmonious family environment.

I have found that there is a popular trend among young people in modern times for a "new type of mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship": the daughter-in-law is not aggrieved or picky, the mother-in-law is not burdened or complains, and there is no internal conflict in the family

All along, in people's impression, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have always been like enemies, as if there is no conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in any family.
However, with the continuous development of society, a new type of mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship has become popular among young people nowadays.
In this relationship, the mother-in-law doesn't have to be so tired and won't complain; As for the daughter-in-law, she doesn't feel wronged or uncomfortable, and the family doesn't engage in internal conflicts with each other.
This new type of mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship breaks the old hierarchical concepts and prejudices, and is based on equality, respect, understanding, and tolerance.
Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are independent individuals who can recognize each other's values, lifestyle, and personal choices.
What does this new type of mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship really look like?
1、 Draw a clear boundary and prioritize respect
Take Zhang Shanya and Gu Moli, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the TV drama "Little Days", for example. They have well demonstrated the importance of boundaries and respect in the new type of mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship.
Once, Zhang Shanya stumbled upon the hotel receipts of Gu Moli and her son, and impulsively went to question them. But after learning the truth, she immediately stopped digging or interfering with the lives of the young couple.
As for Gu Moli, when faced with some very different lifestyle habits from her mother-in-law, such as being particularly frugal, although she may feel a little uncomfortable, she still respects her mother-in-law's contributions to the family and recognizes her mother-in-law's position in the family.
In real life, many conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law arise due to unclear boundaries.
If the mother-in-law intervenes too much in the private life of the young couple, the daughter-in-law will feel that her personal space has been violated.
On the other hand, if the daughter-in-law casually judges the mother-in-law's lifestyle, the mother-in-law will also be very angry and disappointed.
Young people nowadays are very touched. One netizen said, "I hope my mother-in-law can understand that my son and I have formed our own small family, and we have to grow through our own exploration. Her experience can be used as a reference, but it cannot constrain us
Only when both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law maintain good boundaries and respect each other, can they live in harmony. This way, the mother-in-law won't be too tired, the daughter-in-law won't be wronged, and the atmosphere at home can always be harmonious and stable.
2、 Economic independence, mutual assistance
I remember when I watched the TV series "Wang Gui and Anna", I particularly liked the mother-in-law of the female lead in it.
The female protagonist Anna is a cultured and ambitious woman who works hard and has her own income. She is financially independent and has a say in family decision-making.
She will use her own money to buy things for the family and improve their living conditions. When her mother-in-law sees her efforts and abilities, she will also respect her more. When the family is in difficulty, her mother-in-law will use her life experience to help with household chores, take care of children, and support Anna.
In today's society, economic independence is a guarantee of personal independence and dignity for young people.
As one of my fans left a message saying, "I hope my wife and mother can both be financially independent, so that when they get along, they won't have conflicts over money and their relationship will be purer
When both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law become economically independent, their status in the family becomes more equal and their relationship becomes more harmonious. Mutual help is not due to economic dependence, but to genuine care and familial instincts, which can avoid internal conflicts caused by economic problems and make the family more harmonious.
3、 Communicate well and think from the perspective of others
I have a friend who is born in the 1990s. In theory, many of her ideas do not match those of her mother-in-law, but she handles the mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship very well.
After in-depth communication with her, I realized that she is particularly good at communicating with her mother-in-law.
Whether it's small or big matters at home, she can communicate honestly with her mother-in-law. She patiently explains modern lifestyles and concepts to her mother-in-law, and also listens carefully to her mother-in-law's opinions and concerns.
In fact, many times the elderly do not insist on making their own decisions, but rather seek that sense of identification. Even if the wife has already made up her mind to do something and uses a different communication strategy to communicate with the elderly instead of directly announcing her decision, the elderly can understand and accept it.
In family life, many conflicts arise due to poor communication and lack of mutual understanding.
Young people nowadays attach great importance to emotional expression and communication, and they hope to be able to speak freely and understand each other in the mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship.
Replace blame and coercion with care and support, excessive interference and control with clear boundaries and freedom, and suppressed emotions and grievances with honest communication and empathy.
In this way, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be better, and the family atmosphere will be more harmonious and warm, truly achieving the ideal state of zero internal friction in the family.
The emergence of a new type of mother-in-law daughter-in-law relationship is a manifestation of social progress and also a pursuit of family harmony among young people nowadays. It shows us a new model of family interaction, allowing us to see that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can also be treated equally, respected, understood, and tolerated, creating a warm and harmonious family environment together.