A good family: the father has a big picture, and the mother can lead a small life

I have seen a metaphor: Home is a landscape painting, father is a towering mountain, mother is an endless river. Father used the wind and bones of the mountains to support a piece of heaven and earth; Mother's delicate use of water brings life to life. The best appearance of a family is that the father has a grand vision and the mother can lead a small life.

01 Father has a pattern
British psychologist Alfred once said, "The influence of a father on a child is enormous, slowly seeping into their blood and embedding into their soul." A father's perspective determines the boundaries of a child's exploration of life. Father sees far, child flies high. Zhang Wuling, an educator in the early Republic of China, had only 10 requirements for her children: independent thinking and a free personality. The four daughters he nurtured were all outstanding and had a happy ending. He never used the "Three Obediences and Four Virtues" to restrain his daughter, but instead vigorously advocated modern education, encouraging children to release their nature and pursue themselves. Take your daughter to listen to Kunqu opera, read poetry and books, run magazines, encourage them to go out and see the world, boldly make friends, and remind them not to confine themselves in the boudoir. Under the cultivation of Zhang Wuling, the four daughters not only learned books and etiquette, but also had an outgoing personality and achieved considerable success in their careers. Father used courage and responsibility to support his child's soaring sky, and measured the future path of a family with insight and wisdom.
02 Mother Can Live a Life
Liang Xiaosheng once told the story of his childhood memories with his mother in the novel "Mother", and now reading it still feels like a warm current seeping into his heart. On winter nights, his mother placed him and his siblings on a warm kang, doing needlework and chatting at home. Suddenly, the mother magically created a comic book, and the children rushed over to read it. The mother then went to bake a few sweet potatoes and wash her cotton clothes. In Liang Xiaosheng's writings, the mother can be said to be powerful and capable of anything. The dirt house at home was originally like a cellar, but under my mother's care, the windows were bright and clean, warm and comfortable. When she couldn't eat, her mother would agilely climb up the tree to pick up the elm money, and then make it into steamed cake, tofu, and noodle soup, which were delicious and left a lingering fragrance on her lips and teeth. The warmth of each day seeps into the tender hearts of children, like a living stream, nourishing their growth. Until many years later, Liang Xiaosheng still said with emotion: In every lonely day, I miss my mother deeply. The older generation often says that children are like crops in the field, growing whenever they see the wind. In fact, this wind is never outside, but a scent blowing from my mother's heart. Mom's waiting may seem ordinary and tedious, but it is delicate enough to penetrate deep into the bone marrow. Wherever we are, whenever we think of our mother, our bodies grow hard armor that can withstand the wind and frost. Taiwanese psychologist Dr. Hong Lan said: A mother is the soul of a family. A mother who knows how to live can always make the whole family feel the beauty of life. She is like a little sun, spreading care in every corner, enriching the hearts of children and illuminating the family. ▽ In the family, the words and deeds of parents hide the future of everyone. Father decides the height of a home, while mother regulates the temperature inside. A pair of good parents can bring infinite happiness and hope to a family. Father is a good guide, mother supports the rear, and this family will have smooth sailing and good fortune.