Marriage and Self: Finding Balance in the Waves of Life
In Mr. Yang Jiang's writing, the true essence of marriage and life is delicately outlined. She once said: “
If you feel unhappy in your family life, frequently lose control of your emotions, shed tears, and develop disgust towards those around you, it may be because your financial support or emotional needs have not been met. Although it may sound tacky, this is the reality.
”Her words are like a mirror, reflecting the bitterness and helplessness of women in marriage.
The self in marriage
Women who loudly scold their husbands and children in the family may appear to be the harshest and most dominant individuals in the household, but in reality, they are often the ones who care the most about and worry about the family. Behind their roar lies their helplessness towards reality, the hardships of life, and inner grievances, but these are often not understood and cherished by their families.
The trivialities of life
The trivialities and troubles in life have made her appearance haggard; The incomprehension and impatience of her family gradually dimmed the radiance in her eyes; The dissatisfaction of life has further exacerbated her anxiety. She doesn't have no dreams, she just gave up for the sake of her family; She doesn't care about her image, but in the end, she became the person who loves to throw tantrums and makes her family avoid her.
Self indulgence
In this lifetime, if someone spoils you, it's a surprise; If no one spoils you, please learn to spoil yourself. No matter where life takes us, there is always a way out waiting for us. The estrangement in marriage is not always due to infidelity, but often due to deep exhaustion.
Change and acceptance
Don't always expect to change the other person. Trying to change someone or complaining about someone is the root of pain. In this world, no partner can fully meet our expectations. What are those things deeply rooted in the bone marrow that even parents cannot change? Why bother ourselves? At this point, all we need to do is manage ourselves well and do our best.
The True Meaning of Marriage
The most important thing in marriage is not who you marry, but whether you can still be yourself. In the second half of life, marriage is not everything. An excellent child, a healthy body, and a happy life are more worthy of our pursuit.
Philosophy of Life
So, let us face life with a light joy, quiet love, deep understanding, and a light release. Even if life may seem indifferent at times, we should live freely, laugh happily, and live openly and honestly.
epilogue
Under the inspiration of Mr. Yang Jiang, we have learned to find balance in marriage and life, to maintain ourselves in challenges, and to love ourselves when we are not understood. Let us embrace every challenge, enjoy every moment, and create our own happiness with a peaceful heart on the journey of life.