Marriage: A Double Mirror of Emotions and Interests
In today's society, marriage seems to have become a touchstone, testing both emotions and interests. The game between these two has complicated what should have been a warm and harmonious marriage. Today, let's talk about emotions and interests in marriage through a few short stories, and provide some practical advice to help couples who want to protect their marriage.
1、 Marriage: The duality of emotions and interests
Marriage, in the eyes of the older generation, was a major event in life, but now it seems to have become a bit 'fragile'. With the rapid development of society and the increasing temptation, emotions and interests in marriage have become topics of concern for everyone. On the one hand, marriage is when two people come together because they love each other and promise to spend the rest of their lives together; On the other hand, in marriage, real issues such as economic sources, family status, and children's education also need to be considered. So, emotions and interests are like two sides of a coin in marriage, we need to find a balance point.
2、 Romantic period: a beautiful mist
When they first started dating, couples saw each other's strengths, and Aqiang and his girlfriend were like that. Aqiang planned a romantic seaside ceremony in order to propose, featuring both candles and love songs. In the early stages of their marriage, they were also sweet and cozy, enjoying breakfast, matching clothes, and watching movies together.
But the good times don't last long, more than half of couples will have conflicts in the first year of marriage. Aqiang and his wife are no exception. Issues such as buying a house, family expenses, and children's education have become their points of disagreement, and they even argue fiercely.
3、 Profit competition: the smell of gunpowder in daily trivialities
The game of interests in marriage is often hidden in daily trivialities. Aqiang's income has decreased, and the family's financial pressure is high, so buying a house has become a problem. My wife wanted a big house, but Aqiang felt that we should act within our means, so they argued. There are also family expenses, children's education, and constant arguments. These disputes slowly eroded their emotions.
Neighbor Xiaohui and her husband also argue every day because of their different entrepreneurial and work philosophies. Xiaohui wants to start her own business, but her husband thinks she should first stabilize her job. As a result, the atmosphere at home is tense, and their relationship has dropped to freezing point.
4、 Social media: The illusion of happiness
Nowadays, social media is so developed that it has become a place for people to showcase their lives. But the happiness above is often "processed", which can easily lead to comparison and dissatisfaction. Aqiang's relatives became dissatisfied with Aqiang when they saw others sharing their happiness on social media, resulting in a long period of cold war at home.
Happiness on social media is just the tip of the iceberg, and the hardships behind it are often overlooked. This one-sided display can easily lead to misunderstandings and comparative psychology, which can have an impact on marriage.
5、 Suggestions and opinions
In marriage, both emotions and interests need to be considered. Couples have to face life's trivialities and future plans together, so good communication is particularly important. When encountering conflicts of interest, think from a different perspective and find a solution that is acceptable to both parties.
Also, information on social media should be viewed correctly. Don't let those false happiness affect your relationship. Cherish the person in front of you, cherish the emotional bond between us, and work together to maintain our marriage.
Marriage is like a long run, requiring mutual support, tolerance, and understanding between spouses to reach the finish line. There will be challenges and temptations on the road, but as long as we don't forget our original intention and support each other, we will definitely overcome difficulties and harvest happiness.