Love: Love that requires effort to pursue is not truly a good fate

The best state in love is the two-way rush after falling in love at first sight. When you meet someone you like and they happen to also like you, this beautiful feeling is indescribable in words.

But in real life, many people are not fortunate enough to encounter this kind of love. Some people may encounter rejection from their loved ones after expressing their feelings to them.

After encountering rejection from their desired partner, this person will be in a passive position in love. At this moment, there are only two choices in front of them: one is to give up this love, and the other is to continue to strive for it.

Choosing to continue pursuing love also has two possible outcomes: one is to show one's strengths to the desired partner and win their favor, and successfully obtain love; the other is that the harder one strives to pursue the other, the more it will make the other person resentful, causing oneself to fall into pain and internal friction.

Striving to pursue someone who doesn't love oneself is actually an unwise behavior. Love itself is a two-way choice. If the other person truly loves you, they are your right fate, and they won't have the heart to make you wait too long. The person who can bear to make you wait alone in the wind and rain has no you in their heart. In their heart, you have nothing to do with them. That's why the more painful and sad you are, the more they will resent you for convenience.

Faced with love that requires effort to pursue, instead of persevering, making things difficult for others, and feeling wronged, it is better to choose to let go, let go of oneself, and start anew in life.

1、 Love is attracted through self-improvement.

In love, when you fall in love with someone, it is inevitably due to their characteristics that can attract you. In your eyes, these characteristics may be an irreplaceable advantage that they possess.

It is precisely because you are attracted to the strengths of the other person that you develop feelings of admiration for them. Similarly, if you also want to find love and attract someone who likes you, you need to know what your strengths are and where your strengths lie.

For this question, some people may say that I don't know what advantages I have, but advantages can be obtained through self-improvement. People with learning ability and positive attitude are probably not too bad.

Good love is not obtained through hard pursuit, but through showcasing one's own strengths. To have a beautiful love, the first thing to do is to strive to improve oneself.

2、 For those who don't love you, your hard work and pursuit are actually a kind of disturbance.

In the process of pursuing love, some people who love but cannot, often fall into a painful emotion. They will feel that I am so good to them, why won't they be moved?

This kind of thinking is just a one-sided wishful thinking. Your kindness to the other person may not necessarily be seen as good in their eyes, but rather as a disturbance.

In real life, some people strive to pursue love for many years, and even if they eventually find their desired partner, the other person may not choose to be with them because of love, which is actually a very sad thing.

Therefore, love that requires effort to pursue actually has no meaning.

3、 In the face of love, choice is important.

In the face of love, choice is more important than effort. Choosing to pursue someone who doesn't love you, even if you put in a lot of effort, cannot achieve happy love. But if you choose someone who has a good impression of you, then you don't have to put in too much effort to have beautiful love.

In a romantic relationship, it is important to know how to choose a partner. Choosing someone who loves you will make your life beautiful because of love. When you are lost, your lover will know how to care for you. When you are in pain, your lover will know how to love you. When you are happy, your lover will also be happy and proud of you from the bottom of their heart.

But if you choose the wrong romantic partner, their love for you is conditional, so even if you can get them, you cannot feel the beauty of love from them.

The love that requires effort to pursue, the other party is likely not genuinely fond of you, because their love for you is conditional, so you cannot get true happiness from this love.