Why do truly intelligent people never socialize?

Many times, what really exhausts us is not the work itself, but the 'ineffective socializing'. What is' ineffective socializing '? The following scene may be considered representative: you run to a party, greet a group of strangers with warm and friendly faces, chat politely throughout the room, chat with each other, toast, scan WeChat, leave phone numbers, but after three days, you can't remember who the other person is... Think carefully, most of our time and energy are occupied by this "ineffective socializing". The saying 'connections are money' is the biggest lie today. The true power lies in how many people you can attract and influence. You are not great yourself, knowing anyone who is great is useless.

Nowadays, everyone is very realistic and only wants to meet someone who is useful to them. Think about the lack of confidence when you introduce yourself in front of successful people. Others will not trust you. And this kind of socialization can only make you less confident, less confident, restless, and anxious. Therefore, your own level determines the level you are at. You can always be in the same circle with people at the same level. Instead of spending a lot of time making friends with others, it's better to work hard to improve oneself. We are shifting from seeking external resources to seeking internal connections, seeking external channels, seeking relationships, and seeking connections. However, in the end, we find that it is just empty handed. Internal pursuit is to focus all your energy on what you should do, to maximize your strengths, and naturally attract others to meet your own needs. This is the true essence of 'seeking oneself rather than seeking others'. Sometimes, in order to expand our so-called social network, we swallow our pride and blindly try to please and comply on stage. As a result, we give our best temper to others and our worst emotions to our family and parents. Offending others can cause us to lose our own benefits, so we dare not; And if you offend your loved ones, they won't harm you, but the cost is almost zero, so we act recklessly. Your family understands the hardships of your life the most, which is why they have endured and allowed you to be unreasonable and arrogant. There are countless failures in life, and this is the most tragic and desolate one. This society will only become more and more realistic. Talking about emotions is too fake, it's better to talk about interests directly. Since everyone is here for a purpose, why can't we open the sunroof and speak frankly? Go straight to the point, come if it fits, go if it doesn't fit. Moreover, the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water.

Truly successful and intelligent people will maintain a certain distance from others, which can be attacked, defended, collected, and hidden. Because human nature has a weakness: when you open everything up in front of others, they will feel that you have a clear view, and then they will manipulate you. Because everything about you has been exposed there. This is indeed a big taboo. There are many favored courtiers around the emperor, and the result is either being beheaded by the emperor or by others; The red people around the leader often change, either to blame the leader or to offend a group of colleagues; There are many friends who call themselves brothers and sisters, and once there is a conflict of interest involved, they will fight fiercely; There are many deeply loved lovers, most of whom travel to the ends of the world. All the beauty in the world is actually a sense of unfamiliarity and distance. Having a clear view will only lead to boredom. So the most beautiful distance in the world is where you can reach but haven't reached yet. So, the future society doesn't need socializing. Any distance that exists is reasonable. We don't need to deliberately approach or walk away, we just need to be good at ourselves. We will approach sooner or later when we should. The most precious thing in the future is time. Do not waste others' time or your own time casually. If you have some leisure time, don't socialize: if you don't see each other for many years and suddenly contact each other, it must be because I used you that I thought of you; If you are suddenly invited to dinner without prior reservation, it means that you are just a member of a certain dinner party. Remember: no one is worth socializing with! Take some time to read more books, spend more time with family, make yourself physically and mentally happy, and lead a colorful life. Isn't it great to cultivate oneself and nurture one's character? Finally, a reminder: please focus your extra time and energy on things or people you love, and do what you should do and are good at to the extreme. Your world will be much more exciting!