What truly destroys a family is not infidelity, not poverty, but your habit!

Someone shared that.
The washing machine at my mother-in-law's house broke down, but my wife and mother-in-law happily chose a new one.
But the father-in-law was deeply dissatisfied with their spending behavior.
Not only did he immediately criticize them, but he also snatched his phone and returned the washing machine he had already ordered.
What if there's no washing machine in that house?
Repair it yourself.

So, during the three days of New Year's Day, the father-in-law persevered under the scolding of his family while diligently studying the "washing machine circuit repair technology".
At the same time, I am also responsible for hand washing the clothes that everyone has changed.
Don't even think about it, my father-in-law studied for three days and really understood it.
After buying the same circuit board and installing it, the washing machine can indeed be used normally.
My father-in-law felt proud and said, "Look, with my research, I saved our family a lot of money this time
Who would have thought that a new problem would come the next day.
Firstly, the old problem on the father-in-law's waist recurred and he couldn't get out of bed in pain. The doctor said he needed surgery, which would cost about 80000 yuan.
Then, the washing machine that had been repaired with great effort also completely stopped running on the second day of his hospitalization.
Before entering the operating room, the father-in-law anxiously instructed his family:
Hurry up and return the circuit board, it won't be able to be returned after a long time
Little did she know that on the day he was hospitalized, his mother-in-law had already packaged the old washing machine and sold it to a scrap vendor.
In order to save thousands of yuan on washing machine fees, I endured several days of hardship and even exhausted myself to the hospital. I spent all my money looking for punishment. What's the point
I did useless work for nothing.
Coincidentally, someone also shared their mother's story of being extremely frugal.
During this year's Spring Festival, she bought a box of sweet potatoes, but after baking two with her family, she forgot about it.
Later, when cleaning up the kitchen, I realized that the sweet potatoes were broken, with many spots and mold, so I threw them directly into the trash can.
The next day at noon, I saw my mother making sweet potato rice.
She was surprised and asked her mother where the sweet potatoes came from.
My mother answered 'newly bought'.
She didn't think much and just ate it because 'I never thought my mom would dig moldy sweet potatoes out of the trash and make them for everyone to eat'.
As a result, her stomach began to feel uncomfortable in the afternoon, to the point where she couldn't work normally.
After returning home, I realized that not only her, but also her parents and sisters were all having diarrhea.
She looked back and locked in what her family had eaten together.
Sweet potato rice.
Even at this point, my mother still wouldn't let go and insisted that it was a new purchase.
And when she suggested going to the hospital, she refused to go, saying it was a waste of money and that she could just take some medicine by herself.
Until the younger sister was really uncomfortable and couldn't stand anymore, they were allowed to call 120 and sent the whole family of four to the hospital.
At this moment, the mother admitted that she had picked out the moldy sweet potatoes from the trash can to cook.
Those moldy sweet potatoes are only three yuan.
But four people were in the hospital, receiving injections, gastric lavage, and hospitalization, spending 12000 yuan all the time.
Can you tell me, how many sweet potatoes can I buy?
After being discharged, I thought my mother could change now.
did not.
Instead, they nag every day:
I clearly removed all the bad parts, it's because of your poor physical condition!
I eat so well and delicately in my daily life, I take care of my body!
In the future, we will still have to endure more hardships and eat unclean food without getting sick
So, the whole family lives under the control of their mother.
The quality of life for the whole family, including the level of physical health, has become increasingly poor due to the excessive savings made by the mother.
There's nothing I can do, I won't listen no matter what I say. For the sake of my health, I can only keep fighting with my mother's intelligence and courage
In fact, too many parents, especially the older generation, have the habit of "excessive frugality" to some extent.
But they find it difficult to realize how their actions can cause physical and emotional trauma to their families.
I have seen a topic:
Will overly frugal parents bring great psychological pressure and guilt to their children?
A high praise replied:
Yes, I really can.
Her family is from a suburban rural area, and her parents do small businesses. Although they are not very wealthy, they are not so poor either.
Perhaps due to experiencing too many hardships in the past, his parents have always been very frugal.
"For 24 years, our family has only had two or two restaurants, one for rice noodles and the other for Fried Rice."
When she went shopping with her mother, she wanted to eat Spicy Hot Pot, a bowl of which was only 10 yuan.
But my mom always says, 'I'm not hungry, I don't want to eat.'.
If I had to buy her a bowl, she would scold me very harshly and loudly, saying she wouldn't eat.
But a bowl of Spicy Hot Pot is too much, I can't finish it every time, and she must eat the rest, and it tastes delicious. "
This led to her subconsciously avoiding eating out with her mother when she grew up.
She said she wouldn't eat and came to eat my leftovers again. I can't stand this scene
Even now, she can fully afford her parents' expenses.
But her mother's behavior will still shatter her years of pride in an instant.
I would feel that no matter what I do, I cannot bring my parents a sense of security to indulge in a feast
The seeds of poverty and inferiority, planted by them in my heart, have not sprouted for many years but deeply rooted. They constantly remind me of my poverty and my predicament. Perhaps this is a haze that I can never shake off in my life
Besides, there is also a group of parents in China.
Habitually saying 'I'm working so hard because of you'.
Whether intentional or not.
I used to have a friend named Lina. When she was studying, she told me that she was most afraid of going home during holidays. If she had to go back, she would definitely wear the most worn-out clothes and shoes.
Because her mother would definitely say some harsh words in front of her.
Look at your school, you earn over a thousand a month. How much do your dad and I only earn in a month
When she grows up, although she can support herself, every time she goes home, as long as she buys something.
Regardless of whether parents are happy or not, their first reaction is always to blame:
Why are you spending money recklessly again? This bag of things is enough for half a month's salary for your father and me
Why are you buying such expensive fruits? Why do you keep your mouth open when you go out
Whenever she makes a slight rebuttal, her parents will surely use phrases like 'you've grown up, your wings have hardened' and 'now you've become so selfish and self-centered' to chase and block her.
Although we must acknowledge:
Parents who have experienced those difficult days before, it is not wrong to be frugal.
Or in other words, the long-term scarcity of material resources has already instilled in them the habit of frugality.
However, frugality is not about nitpicking.
Frugality means:
I have a reasonable demand of 50 yuan at home today, and I try not to exceed this amount when buying things. And after buying things, I can make the most of them and avoid wasting them.
instead of:
I can afford the reasonable demand of 50 yuan at home, but I have to squeeze this demand.
Replace with bad and rotten things, and not only save yourself, but also squeeze the demands of children and people around you.
At this point, the virtue of frugality has already become 'deformed'.
It not only causes some of the health problems we mentioned earlier.
This can also lead to various psychological problems and family conflicts, which require a long, even lifelong effort to resolve.
So why did you discuss this topic at ten o'clock today?
Is it just to accuse them of "excessive frugality" and the harm it brings to their families?
no, it isn't.
We are all family members, and I know that frugality is not their fault. It is a lifestyle habit that has been developed for decades because it is difficult to change.
I just want to express:
If possible, please live a moderately relaxed life and be less calculating.
Really, this will be the greatest help for children.
I saw a girl share it a few days ago.
I have been complaining a lot about my mother recently
Why?
Because my mother has been getting sick lately, she has taken her to see her no less than 30 times in just one year.
My mother has a fractured ankle and needs treatment for steel plate rejection infection.
She ran back and forth, grabbing the account for two months before finally obtaining the authoritative expert.
The accompanying bed in the hospital is sleeping so hard that my waist is about to break
But her complaints are not because of these.
What I'm afraid of is, what if one day my parents get seriously ill and I can't afford the exorbitant medical expenses
Moreover, these diseases are likely to have been 'saved' by them
Although my mother always says to her, 'Don't worry, I can still afford to see a doctor.'.
But she knew in her heart that her mother only said that because she didn't want to burden her.
Because of her daily actions, she has been verifying another sentence:
The money saved now is just for going to the hospital in the future
For this reason, she often complains to her mother:
If it weren't for your reluctance to throw away the flat bottomed slippers that cost 8 yuan, you wouldn't have broken your bone today
Dad is no exception. If it weren't for his stubborn belief that going to the hospital would cost a lot of money, he wouldn't have come to the hospital for a heart stent because his blood vessels were blocked until 95%.
Do you know that the blockage was so severe that the stent couldn't be lowered? I just listened to the doctor's advice and placed two drug balloons, which cost 94000 yuan
Although she understands, her parents are unwilling to cause trouble for her.
But she really can't accept her parents' behavior like this:
Always trying to save a few dollars and subjecting the body to unbearable pain.
Always stubbornly delaying seeking medical treatment, resulting in spending tens of thousands more now in order to save thousands of yuan!
Is it worth it?
I'm even more afraid that one day they will really drag their illness away and then go to the hospital. What if the doctor has nothing to do
The following passage is what she said to her parents.
Similarly, it means giving to millions of parents who are both excessively frugal and extremely stubborn.
Do you know, I've been calculating countless times that if you get sick and I sell the house I bought when I was single, and use all my savings, will it be enough to save you
The reason why I keep complaining about your frugality is not because I'm being sentimental, but because I'm really afraid of losing you in the end because I can't afford the medical expenses
You should know that by then, your only child will definitely exhaust all of his savings and property to save you
But I'm really afraid it won't be enough
In recent years, there have been countless such news reports.
In order to save 2 yuan on electricity bills, I went to seek medical attention for heatstroke, vomiting, and diarrhea;
In order to save money, buy a box of not so good apples and eat the bad ones tightly. When you are ready to eat, all the good ones will rot and you will also face the risk of diarrhea;
What's even more terrifying is that someone secretly collected the oil in the small box under the range hood to save fuel, and gave it to their family for the next stir fry meal. As a result, the whole family got esophageal cancer, which was not worth the loss.
You should know that true frugality is not about finding ways to save on words, not about making oneself difficult by eating "bad" food, and not about forcefully creating hardships just to save those two or three dollars.
Some doctors explain that there are actually many diseases that are saved now.
Especially now, many diseases have a trend of "youthfulness", so it is important to pay more attention in daily life.
Firstly, when buying groceries, try not to buy ingredients that are not fresh.
Those ingredients may seem cheap, but the subsequent gastrointestinal diseases they may cause are difficult to prevent.
Leftover food and spoiled food should be thrown away in the same way. Don't try to gouge out the spoiled area and continue eating.
Mold has already multiplied in places where you can't see it.
This is not about saving, but about being irresponsible to one's own body.
Secondly, chopsticks, cutting boards, and cloths should also be regularly monitored.
I have seen many people who have been using chopsticks, cutting boards, and cloths at home for decades, even if they become moldy, spoiled, and have black spots, they continue to use them.
Little do they know that after each use, they only wash casually and do not clean thoroughly all year round, which can easily breed bacteria.
Among them, Aspergillus flavus is a first-class carcinogen, with strong toxicity and carcinogenicity, and extremely high temperature resistance.
It's difficult to remove it at home, only by replacing it can it be completely removed.
There are too many places in life that need to be noted, and you cannot list them all here.
What are the details of your parents' excessive frugality that need attention in your daily life?
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Of course, you can also talk about the impact of such 'excessive frugality' on you?
Finally, I would like to say that although there are differences in consumer attitudes between the two generations, it cannot be denied that:
Love will always flow within it.
Don't let good intentions do bad things and erode the love in them.
Click on 'Watching', hoping that each of us can avoid excessive and ineffective frugality, and stay healthy and happy until old age.