In marriage, not expressing love is even more terrifying than not loving at all
The so-called husband and wife are difficult to meet in the vast sea of people, but easy to distance themselves in the midst of daily necessities.
Many marriages seem to be unable to escape the ravages of time.
How many couples start to be sweet and happy, but as time goes by, many people choose to part ways because they are unfaithful to their relationship, have different personalities, and no longer love each other. But more marriages that end in failure are not due to problems with principles and bottom lines, but rather because one party is busy working to earn money while the other is busy taking care of the family. The trivialities of life exhaust each other's passion, and both husband and wife no longer express their love for each other in their mundane lives, thinking that they understand each other, but in reality, they gradually drift apart.
In the movie 'Firefighter', a seven-year itch marriage story is told. A couple who have been married for seven years, husband Keller is a firefighter and wife Catherine is a public relations director at a hospital. They both excel in their respective fields, but their marital life is in dire straits and shattered. The husband can't bear to work so hard every day, but when he comes home, he can't even eat a hot meal. He is often criticized by his wife for not caring about the family, and he often angrily throws the door open, ignoring his wife's other contributions to the family; The wife feels that her husband only cares about work and doesn't care about the family at all, so she often yells and breaks down countless times, ignoring the pressure of her husband's work.
In the workplace, Keller often warns his subordinates: "Never abandon your comrades, especially in a fire." Many times, he risked his own life to rush in to protect his comrades at work. However, he did not apply this truth to his married life, and after experiencing countless intense arguments and cold wars, divorce seemed to be their only choice.
Keller's father couldn't bear to watch their marriage break down, so he gave his son a handwritten copy of "The Challenge of Love in 40 Days" and pleaded with him to follow the instructions above and spend 40 days repairing their marital relationship, making a final effort to save their marriage. He told his son that he didn't love his wife anymore, he just forgot how to love her. Keller agreed, and in his spare time, he followed through with his notes. When his wife got angry, he didn't complain and prepared a breakfast for her. When his wife got sick, he thoughtfully poured water and medicine, brewed coffee, washed dishes, cleaned the house, bought flowers, and had a candlelight dinner
Keller initially resisted this challenge, but later realized the true meaning of marriage through daily persistence. He re examined everything and realized that the reason for the breakdown of his marriage was because he didn't know how to maintain the relationship between the two. Faced with her husband's subtle changes, Catherine was initially unmoved, believing that they were just temporary tricks her husband used to avoid divorce. Keller did not give up and continued to persevere with a 12 point spirit. He gradually filled the gap between husband and wife, slowly melting her dusty heart. Later, she finally put on her wedding ring again. The two of them returned to the sweet times of the past, and through this marriage crisis, they learned to express love in marriage in order to maintain happiness.
People pursue love and eternity, but always forget how to maintain and manage their marriage.
How many people still hold on to the vow they made at their wedding, 'No matter what happens, I will always love him as one'.
When in love, love is unpredictable, and both parties are constantly showing each other all their love. Occasional small surprises always make each other happy and moved.
Once you enter into marriage, all that remains is running around for your family, working hard for your children, and never talking about romantic surprises again.
How many middle-aged couples still hug each other while sleeping, hold each other's hands when going out, and praise each other?
Happy marriages are rarely products of opportunity, they are like buildings that must be designed rationally and with care.
Marriage is business, not gambling. Only by making the other person feel your love for her can marriage be sweeter and go further.
The expression of love that keeps married life fresh does not require you to prepare meticulously or waste it in a grand manner. It does not necessarily have to be a luxurious French feast or a particularly expensive gift.
It can be: heartwarming tips on the refrigerator; After an argument, bow down and apologize first; A bowl of noodles cooked for the other person when they were hungry; A kiss in the morning, a hug when going out; After taking a shower, wipe her dry and wet hair; Every little bit in daily life, strolling hand in hand on a small path... is a gap between mundane matters, a nine to five leisure, and the unique and exclusive care given to the other party.
In "Beijing Meets Seattle", Frank touched Wen Jiajia precisely because of his "moistening things silently" in ordinary days. She spoke of his love for himself, and her eyes were full of affection. "He may not take me to a yacht to eat French food, but he can run several streets for me every morning to buy my favorite soybean milk deep-fried dough sticks."
Love is not perfect, marriage is inevitably weary, and a mundane and busy life can sometimes be tedious. In the mundane days, these small expressions of love are not affectation or boredom. They are proof of the flowing love between husband and wife, and the lubricant that keeps the marriage happy.
In marriage, the expression of love is to make the other person understand that you are diligently maintaining a relationship and managing their days with care. Even if life is slowly worn away by the mundane day after day, your warmth towards her can fill the mundane life with warm and long-lasting confessions.
Movies, candlelight dinners, or two person trips are not about material possessions, but rather a love for life and a cherishing of each other.
The significance of joining hands for a lifetime is not just about the vows made at the wedding, but also about responsibility, support, tolerance, loyalty, and many more. No matter how intense the emotions are, no matter how happy the marriage is, if you don't understand
Management, without the protection of love, will eventually be worn down by trivial life.
Many people are afraid of getting married because they are afraid that all the good things will be worn down by time, but in fact, as long as both husband and wife are attentive enough, they can keep the trivial days vivid and lively. If you no longer feel passionate in your married life, don't rush to divorce, why not start dating again.