After a divorce, who regrets it the most?

In the first three quarters of last year, 5.69 million couples registered for marriage and 1.973 million couples registered for divorce nationwide;

The number of marriage registrations increased by 245000 pairs compared to the same period last year, and the number of divorce registrations increased by 330000 pairs year-on-year.
That is to say, the number of people getting married and divorced has increased.
This indirectly confirms a statement made by Ten Point Jun in his previous article:
Marriage is for happiness, and so is divorce.
Additionally, at ten o'clock, you also discovered another set of data:
The regret rate of impulsive divorce is close to 50%, and in real life, the proportion of impulsive divorce is increasing
We all know that,
At the moment of wanting a divorce, one's heart must be extremely confident and certain.
But once divorced, one often discovers:
Many old problems have not been solved, but new problems have emerged instead.
However, there is no turning back arrow when opening the bow.
Marriage is even more so, it's easy to break up, but too difficult to reconcile.
So, before we make the decision to divorce, we must repeatedly ask ourselves:
Is this marriage really hopeless
Am I ready for divorce and post divorce
If you can give affirmative answers, then you can make up your mind.
But once you hesitate, why not wait a little longer and give yourself a cache or pause.
Marriage requires caution, while divorce requires rationality.
Don't file for divorce as soon as you lose your mind.
The most feared thing is regret, but it's already too late.
@Jimmy, 29 year old radio host
For a long time after the divorce, I felt that it was the right choice.
I filed for divorce after one year of marriage because I couldn't tolerate my ex husband's unhealthy lifestyle habits.
Upon hearing this news, friends around were surprised, but they did not refute it.
My ex husband has too many bad habits.
Socks are thrown around, clothes are scattered everywhere, and the toilet seat is not lifted when going to the bathroom
I have said it many times, but he doesn't have a good memory.
Although it's all a small matter, every time he destroys it, I have to repeat the labor.
Since I can't change it, I decided to file for divorce.
My husband doesn't understand: Is it really that serious.
In his philosophy, he is considered a good man.
Work on time and earn money to support the family;
Treat your wife with utmost care and concern;
Even if there are some minor issues, they should be understood.
But for me at that time, I didn't even want to 'get used to' him.
However, when I entered my second marriage, I realized that this husband had more problems, such as:
He loves to drink, and when he gets drunk, he talks recklessly and vomits all over the floor;
Not keeping my word, I always have expectations, but in the end, I am disappointed and disappointed;
Low emotional intelligence, being straightforward when speaking, and causing half dead popularity.
More importantly, my income is not high and very unstable, and I need my salary to support my family every month.
But when I wanted to end my marriage again, I suddenly regretted my previous divorce.
After having a reference point, people will always have new cognition.
Although my ex husband was not perfect, he didn't seem so bad against the backdrop of others.
This incident also made me completely understand:
Love is about living with someone's strengths, while marriage is about living with someone's weaknesses.
The marriages that can be called "happiness templates" are not without problems.
But there is a lover who doesn't look at each other's shortcomings with a magnifying glass.
In this world, the perfect lover does not exist.
A bit of confusion in marriage makes life easier;
Be tolerant of each other, so that life will not be bumpy.
@Li Tutu 32 years old Internet operation
The current public opinion environment always portrays divorce as holding the key to the main female lead script.
I didn't realize until I got divorced that there aren't so many exciting articles in reality.
Ordinary people have their own hardships, and everything is not as simple as imagined.
What I originally thought was that after the divorce, I would find a new job, and with my ex husband's support, it would be enough to support me and our children.
But the fact is, due to being out of the workplace for too long, it's difficult for me to find a job with satisfactory income, so I have to settle for the second best.
The father of the child originally did not have a high salary, and he also intermittently provided child support.
Plus rent, utilities, daily expenses, children's tuition fees, training fees, hospitalization for illness
I receive my salary once a month and spend it all before it even warms up.
Before, I only had to take care of my children and didn't have to worry about earning money.
Now, I have to take care of my children every day and also do my job well.
The pressure is not ordinary.
When I am too busy, I can only invite my mother over.
After all, with my current abilities, I simply cannot afford to hire a nanny.
To be honest, I regret my divorce a bit.
Speaking of the reasons for divorce.
I had a best friend by my side who criticized my husband's incompetence and divorced after two years of marriage.
Then I started my own business, selling short videos and quickly moved into a big house and changed cars.
Whenever I complain to her about how little my husband earns, she always says, "If you can't make it, just leave. I'll take you to start a business, isn't it good to make money by yourself
Now thinking about it, others may just casually say it.
But after listening to her a few more times, I saw her as a lifesaver.
Once a thought arises in the human heart, it is like planting a seed that takes root and sprouts wildly in the heart.
I began to show obvious impatience towards my husband, even initiating arguments.
After arguing too many times, they naturally started to file for divorce.
My husband looked at me incredulously and said, 'Don't provoke me. I don't want to divorce you now, and you will definitely regret it.'“
I sneered and said, 'Who would regret it, not necessarily.'
The issue of divorce has been brought up twice since the first time.
In the end, my husband was annoyed and agreed.
We left very comfortably, my son belongs to me, and the house he bought before marriage belongs to him.
When I happily went to find my best friend to start a career together, she replied lightly:
You really left
Afterwards, I contacted her several times, but each time I used excuses to evade.
I know what my best friend said is beyond measure, but I still want to go down the path I chose when I kneel down.
Now, I can only embark on the path of working hard as a single mother in the workplace.
After reviewing my marriage, I finally understood why my ex husband said I would definitely regret it.
At that time, I didn't have the conditions for divorce at all.
I am a full-time housewife who has been out of the workplace for a long time. To find a job with satisfactory salary, I need time to accumulate.
After the divorce, I realized what I had lost
One more thing:
Blindly chasing someone else's footsteps will only make oneself fall even harder.
My best friend's divorce may lead to sudden wealth, but I may not be suitable for it, nor may it necessarily result in sudden wealth.
Furthermore, placing hope on anyone is unreliable.
If I had to choose again, I definitely wouldn't have divorced, at least not at that time.
@Mr. Li, 36 years old, car salesperson
After a month of divorce, I regretted it
In the past, when I returned home from work, my wife would cook meals and have children around me. The whole family was filled with laughter and joy.
Now when I come home at night, there is only an empty house.
My wife and I divorced due to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Not long after getting married, my mother moved in with us.
At the beginning, the two were able to coexist peacefully.
But over time, conflicts inevitably arise.
My mom always buys my favorite dishes when she goes out to buy groceries, never caring about what others are eating.
Once, when my family bought beef, my mother asked me to wait until I came home before eating it again, and then she took my wife to eat it casually.
My wife has a strong opinion afterwards:
Are you the only one in our family who is human? We are not worthy of eating beef
Serve me soup too, with meat at the bottom of the bowl;
When serving soup to my wife, it's all vegetable broth.
If it's just a difference in lifestyle habits, it's still a small matter.
Later, my wife kept muttering in front of me that my mother-in-law always instructed her to work.
Once, my wife was watching TV when my mother asked her to do laundry.
My wife's face was full of unwillingness and she said she would wait for a while.
In the afternoon, my mom saw that the clothes hadn't been washed yet, so she muttered it again.
My wife didn't want to wash it in the first place, so she said to my mom, "Mom, if you have the time you want, you can wash it
My mother looked shocked and stared at her with a look of 'How could you talk to me like this'.
This is what my wife later told me.
I really dare not confront my mother for the sake of my wife,
I grew up in a single parent family. When I was a child, my mother went through a lot of hardships and exhaustion to raise me. She helped me marry a wife and bought me a house.
I can only advise my wife to be patient and not to be like my mother.
The last straw that crushed the camel was during my wife's confinement period,
I was busy with work at the time and didn't have time to take care of my wife, so I asked my mom to go to the hospital to take care of her for a week.
During that week, my mother-in-law either made her chili peppers, made her instant noodles, or made her vegetable porridge.
As the saying goes, the enmity of confinement is inseparable.
After coming back, my wife confronted me and bluntly asked my mother-in-law to come home and live.
I said awkwardly, "My mom doesn't want to be alone. She wants to stay with us forever
So we started arguing endlessly, until we lost all strength. She handed over a divorce agreement.
At that time, I didn't know what was going on, but my heart crossed and I signed it.
As my emotions gradually calmed down, I regretted day by day.
I know it's my mother who interferes too much in our lives, but I have wronged my wife to tolerate her.
Later, I solemnly talked to my mother about the whole process of the matter.
But my mother still angrily said to me, 'I forgot my mother when I got married.'
After a big argument, she went back to her hometown.
Nowadays, I look forward to my wife returning home every day so that we can remarry.
Once upon a time, both men and women in unhappy marriages believed deeply in:
Divorce is the panacea for solving all problems.
If you really can't make it through, then let's get divorced. Whoever leaves can't make it through
But people in reality have found that:
Many divorces do not have the same supernatural power, they are more like a battle of injuring one thousand enemies and self harming eight hundred.
After divorce, there is no winner.
Everyone is rebuilding brick by brick on top of an already crumbling life, starting anew with broken bones and bones.
Of course, Ten o'clock Jun is not against divorce.
Those who have a tendency towards domestic violence, those involved in pornography, gambling, and drugs, those who betray their partners, and those who repeatedly refuse to change their ways.
When it breaks, it breaks.
For other situations, Ten Point Lord hopes that everyone can be rational instead of making impulsive decisions.
Like the previous three stories, many truths were only understood after divorce:
Ending a relationship does not solve all problems.
It turns out that every conflict is a life challenge for you to upgrade and fight monsters, enriching your experience.
The person who always avoids the topic will stumble in the same level the next time, and God will test them again and again until you pass.
Marriage requires careful consideration, divorce requires rational analysis, and one should not be mentally lazy.
In a person's life, they always have as many chips to accomplish as many things, and they are most afraid of being empty handed, with only one word in their heart: 'courage'.
Click on 'Watching' and I hope you don't get married or divorced casually.
Do you have any stories of regret after divorce around you? Feel free to share them in the comment section. If we accompany each other, we won't be lonely anymore.