90% of family conflicts arise in this way!

Someone once said something similar on behalf of children from ordinary and impoverished families:
Why do so many young people like to blame their failures and misfortunes on their families of origin? It's because they don't dislike their parents for being poor, lacking skills, resources, or not receiving much education;
But it's the parents who, despite being ordinary people, are incredibly stubborn, closed off, ignorant, self righteous, like to meddle in their children's affairs, control and interfere everywhere, and like to forcefully impose their illogical and nutritionless ideas on their children.
This directly leads to the child's internal drive and energy being stolen by their parents, becoming a pitiful person who lacks motivation to do things and continues to feel lost and internally consumed.
In the end, parents will still blame their children, saying that I have devoted everything to you, why are you so useless?

I deeply believe so.
Most ordinary parents and poor parents cannot recognize one thing:
If you are a capable person, even if your luck is bad and your destiny is tumultuous, there is still a high probability that you will become a person who creates greater value over the course of 30 or even 50 years. A person with a high level of understanding, profound insight into human nature and the laws of social operation, and the ability to make predictions;
However, most parents who do not read or think in their daily lives cannot have much accumulation and knowledge;
They neither participate in much social practice, nor actively communicate with their children and partners, nor share their valuable life experiences. Therefore, their thinking and cognition are mostly at the level of being questioned by others;
Their energy is mainly focused on struggling and dealing with trivial matters that do not generate any value, and may even drag down their families and consume their trivial matters;
Their focus is entirely on the child, or the child's child. Any slight disturbance in their daily life can cause them to tense their nerves, feel anxious, and release their emotions towards their family, leading to high levels of mental tension and frequent conflicts among family members.
Recently, a friend sent himself a post on a book, which was a young man roast about the negative energy of the old man;
Netizens say that they really can't stand the elderly at home. Every day, they either reminisce about the past, sigh, feel inexplicable annoyed, or share their own pitiful experiences.

You can't absorb any positive energy when chatting with them, either blaming others or constantly complaining;
Not only that, but I also particularly enjoy meddling in other people's affairs and muttering;
I make various complaints casually and have no hobbies or interests in my daily life.
Every time I hear them complaining, I feel restless, my blood pressure skyrockets, and my energy is drained.
I believe many people have had such an experience;
We understand the fear of illness and death exhibited by the elderly during their aging process, as well as the loneliness of not having children by their side. We also know that they have experienced many hardships and pains in the past;
But why can't we change our mindset and live our lives in another way?

One cannot be too idle.
Too idle is easy to get into trouble, too idle will try hard to chew the past memories without nutrition, too idle will become emotional, panic and extremely anxious, too idle will make trouble with nothing;
Imagine a family where everyone has their own interests and hobbies, has their own important tasks to do every day, actively shares their gains and insights with their family, and provides positive feedback and support;
How can we have time to pay attention to those trivial matters, how can we have the anger to pour cold water on our children and partners, and how can we have the intention to blame and complain about our family?

The most important thing for a person is to cultivate their mindset. With a larger mindset, even the most difficult things are not difficult. However, with a strong mindset, one needs to actively create value, constantly practice, adjust, and reflect.